The most important thing to do if you want to be a good friend

Rejoice with those who rejoice

Sometimes people react differently than you would.

They break up with the partner that you really hated but they are devastated.

They got a new job, and you’re pretty sure it’s a demotion from what they’re currently doing and so you’re confused at how ecstatic they are.

They’re really upset about something that honestly seems like not a big deal to you.

They’re really happy about something that also seems like not a big deal to you.

In those moments, I remember Romans 12:15:

Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.

No one’s mind needs to be changed. You don’t need to understand why they rejoice or why they mourn.

But being a good friend (and not being a jerk) means you don’t try to convince them to feel differently.

It means that if they are throwing a party, celebrate with them.

And if they are writing sad poetry, help them write a line.

Just be there, with them, in that moment. With joy, with sadness

Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.

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