Growing up I ate differently than most of my family. At least this is how I remember it. I was always running from thing to thing, and spending a lot of nights and weekends in the dance studio meant we only had meals at home with the whole family a few times a week (not that we didn’t eat together, we just didn’t always eat together at home). So I ate a lot of hot pockets and granola bars and fruit and easy mac and yogurt.
My family has a policy: no personal food. That meant that no one could claim food, it was free for anyone to eat. No crying if someone ate the last of the vanilla ice cream, we’d get some more later. Lucky for me, most of my weekly food staples were uninteresting to the rest of my family. That’s the benefit of having a brother 8 years younger than you… he didn’t become that teenage boy that swallows all food within a ten mile radius until I was long gone from my parents’ home.
In college I was all about personal food. All of my roommates agreed that it was just easier to stick to your own food. Someone always ate a lot more or a lot less if you shared food, which meant that someone was paying more or less than they wanted. This meant that we usually had about 4 different types of milk in the fridge… but we weren’t arguing over money. My last roommate and I did a lot more cooking, so we had a sharing after asking policy as well as a policy of trading off on buying eggs, milk, and bread.
But now I’m married. And I have to share all my food. Because I like a no personal food policy. I figure if we can share money, we can share food. But, unlike the rest of my family, sometimes J and I like the same things, like cheese danishes that I pick up because they’re on sale. But instead of having them for breakfast for 4 days, I only have it for 2 because J has the nerve to like them too.
Or we eat things at different paces. He eats eggs like twice weekly! And then I look in the fridge to grab one or two eggs to bake brownies… and I have no eggs!
And he eats my yogurt. What 27-year-old man likes yogurt?
I did not put this in my wedding vows.